Beyond Ramadan- A Live Deen Event

This August 5th, 2012, the 16th of Ramadan 1433, i was fortunate enough to attend an online lecture by the acclaimed and much respected Dr. Bilal Phillips on the topic, ” Beyond Ramadan” arranged by Live Deen , Here is a short synopsis of what I learned :

– We should look at Ramadan as we look at our lives. When we are young, we are very energetic. As we get older, we mature and towards the latter part of our lives, we apply all the life lessons we learned along the way. Similarly, when Ramadan begins, we are very energetic and excited. Towards the midst of Ramadan we have learned to fast not just from food, but hopefully from everything displeasing to Allah including but not limited to regularly praying, holding on to our anger, avoiding backbiting and other negative traits and have increased our worship. By the end of Ramadan, we are now ready to apply all the lessons we learned in Ramadan, in the next months of the year.  Therefore, during Ramadan, we need to keep evaluating whether our fasts are matching this life pattern or whether it is all going downhill- and if Allah forbid, it is, then we need to immediately re-adjust ourselves to pursue the implementation of the lessons learned in Ramadan- beyond it as well.

–  Fasting is an act of worship purely between you and Allah. No one knows whether you are fasting or not, except yourself and Allah.  Prayer and Hajj are acts of worship that we may eventually see or find that the other person is practicing. Charity too is to some extent hidden if conducted secretly but generally people have an idea as to who is generous and who is not. However, when it comes to fasting- if you go into a corner and bite on a chocolate bar or eat in secret, who is there to know? Therefore, fasting is solely based on Taqwa and can only be carried out effectively by a person who has this Taqwa ( God consciousness).

– The month of Ramadan has much importance as:

* The names of only one of the gates of Paradise has been specified and that is Al-Rayan- the gate from which the people who fast will pass from.

* This is the month in which the Quran was revealed. In Ayah 183 of Chapter 2 of the Holy Quran Allah states: O you who believe! Fasting is prescribed upon you as it was prescribed on those before you so that you may learn self-restraint [2:183]


– It is best to read the Quran with understanding during the month of Ramadan. The emphasis should be on quality as opposed to quantity. Do not get into a race or a competition with others on the number of times you finished reading the Quran. Rather, the concentration should be on reading the Quran, its translation and preferably it’s tafseer as well i.e. understanding the message. Emphasis should be on the reflection of what the Quran states.

– Fasting is just not abstaining from food and water. Each one of us should fast from ill-mannered speech and thoughts. Fast from bad attitudes and keep our anger in check. Fast from back biting and negativity and all those things that each one of us know we really should not be doing. We should especially not indulge in argumentation and if provoked, we should just walk away.

– In Ramadan, we should also be most generous and charitable and increase our good deeds. The best charitable acts are those which are done secretly. Do not accumulate wealth but accumulate your secret charitable acts.


– Try to make your Prayer as “Real” as possible. Worship Allah as if you see Him, and as if He sees you. Imagine as if every prayer is your farewell prayer i.e. your last prayer before you die. To prepare for prayer, also do wudu ( ablution) as if it is very last wudu of your life. Focus on spiritual purification. Make prayer an action that gives you peace and rest and don’t take it as a burden.

Note: Juma tul Wida in Ramadan has no legitimacy in the light of Quran and Sunnah and hence is a Bidah.

-The character of Ramadan is abstinence. Give up what is halal i.e food and water in Ramadan to strengthen your willpower in giving up what is haraam, InshaAllah in the months beyond Ramadan.  We should carry this “God Consciousness” with us in every action that we do and henceforth live our lives in Ramadan and beyond according to what it pleasing to Allah.

–   We should seek repentance for our sins during Ramadan. Do as much, “Astaghfar” as possible with genuine guilt and repentance. Reciting 100 times Astaghfar means nothing unless you genuinely reflect on your sins and seek repentance with your heart and soul.

–   We should strive to revive the spirit of Ramadan beyond Ramadan as well by fasting on the following days a:

*6 fasts in Shawwal that give us the reward as if we have fasted for a year.

*Mondays and Thursdays

*13th, 14th and 15th of every month ( when there is a full moon)

*The day of Arafah i.e. 10th of Muharram

– We should make special preparation for Qiyam during all nights of Ramadan and not just leave it to those odd nights when we seek Laylat-ul-Qadr.

– If we fast properly in Ramadan, we will always be fasting throughout our  lives from what is displeasing to Allah. <3

Other notable highlights of this event were:

– an introduction to an amazing software developed by Mr. Zahid Chihpa called “ Search Quran”. By using this software, you can easily find the reference of any topic in the Quran by simply typing in the key word either in English, Urdu, Arabic or Roman Urdu. For example, if you want to search all the Ayahs ( Lines) in the Quran that deal with Sabr ( Patience), all you have to do is to fill the search tab with the said word and press enter. Voila, in a few miniscule seconds, all references will be right there for you to see. MashaAllah, such amazing work and sadqa jariyah. This software can be downloaded FREE here.

– An introduction to the Islamic Online University established by Dr. Bilal Phillips. This online university offers online intensive, undergraduate, and graduate courses in Islamic Studies completely tuition-free. MashaAllah.

All in all this was a great event that removed many misconceptions in people’s minds as well as provided the much needed motivation to spend the remainder of Ramadan in an effective manner. :)


Ramadan Mubarak

Ramadan Mabrook, Ramzan Mubarak and Ramadan Kareem to everybody reading this. Say it a million different ways, but the sentiment remains the same, the holy month of Ramadan is here, full of its Blessings. Such a kind, generous month gifted by our Kindest and Loving Creator, Allah. ♥
This Ramadan i wish for peace in our country and in the world, for peace to our Palestinian, Kashmiri, Syrian and Burmese brothers and sisters and all other people in the world fighting their own battles whether on the personal front or to protect their rights.
I pray that our emaan (belief) increases and our taqwa ( God-consciousness) becomes more potent, that we learn to be steadfast in our prayers ( which is sadly a struggle for some of us), that our families come closer in bonding through the Sehars and Iftars, that we take full advantage of the odd nights and Allah bestows us the gift of Laylat-ul-Qadr, that we kill our nafs for the better, that we learn to be more patient and curb our anger and that we become better Muslims and Human Beings.
May we remember the example of the Prophet (saw) and utilize the best of manners when dealing with those who are different from us and may we exemplify the revelation of Allah (swt) in all our daily routines. Ameen. Thumma Ameen.
Here’s to wonderful Sehris, Iftaris, Prayers and Smiles and the hope that we will not lose our cool and temper at people around us and here is to spirituality, remembrance of our Creator, Zakat and taking care of the underprivileged around us. ♥ Please remember me and my family and my late brother, Abdur Rahman in your prayers. ♥ Thank you and God Bless. :)
*Yay* So excited. :)
All my prayers,

Do you waste Food?


“Eat and drink but waste not by extravagance, certainly He (Allâh) likes not Al-Musrifûn (those who waste by extravagance.”

Al-A’raf 7:31 of the Holy Quran

If there is one thing that really upsets me is when I see people wasting food. My mom taught me to finish whatever I put on my plate and to date, I try my best to do so unless I feel that one more spoon and I would just die or get sick. Even then, I ensure that the remaining food is not thrown but parceled and either consumed later or given to a stray cat to feast on.


As Muslims, it is simply unbecoming of us to waste food. However even as good humans, we should be cognizant of the fact that in other parts of the world, people are dying because of starvation owing to famine, and here we are simply putting too much on our plate and then later leaving it.

If you are skeptical about the spices used in the food or whether the meat is rare, medium or well done, simply do not put a whole chunk on your plate. Put very little so you can taste and then decide whether you want to eat it or not. That is basic common sense.

Anas said: “The prophet ordered us not to leave anything in the plate and he said: “You do not know in which portion of your food Allah has put the Barakah (Blessing)”. Muslim

And what of people who go to buffets, weddings and all you can eat snack/salad items and fill their plates with layers and layers of food and salad to make a tiny mountain, only to leave the remnants of that mountain behind. Why such greed? Why can’t we just take a small/medium helping and then if we need more, get up and get some more of the food item?


Be thankful for the food that you get on your plate and do not waste It because there are almost 925 Million people in the world starving because of hunger? Would you waste food if you were one of these people? The ones who go through the garbage to get a morsel of food?


I am especially irked by the food items produced to get a mention in the Guinness World Book of Records. “World’s Biggest Pizza”, “World’s Biggest Cake” .Shame on you!


Instead of wasting so many ingredients, you could be World’s Biggest Sane Person, if you instead donated the amount that it cost to makethis World Biggest Nothing, to a reputable charity providing food to the hungry. You wasted so much food for a stupid record. You should be ashamed of yourself.

Let us please try our best from this day:

(i) To only put the quantity of food that you can eat on your plate

(ii) To dispose off leftovers – not in the garbage can-  but in such a way that they can either be (a) reused or (b) given to a stray cat/dog who will consume these leftovers

(iii) To take care of the hungry in what little capacity you can.

Have a good day everybody.

Cheers. :)

A lecture for Pakistani Muslims and their stance on Facebook

I have a lecture by Shaykh Kamaluddin to share on the recent Facebook  issue in Pakistan. Give it a hear:

Click on “Request download ticket” and then click on “download.”

He talks about how we get offended when someone makes fun of the Prophet’s  (may peace be upon him ) zaahiri (physical-outward ) Sunnah ( what the Prophet said or did ) but we ourselves are “living cartoons” because we think that the zaahiri sunnah is unnecessary and do not follow the teachings which change us inside out. When we ourselves don’t care about the zaahir then why do we care when non-Muslims make fun of Prophet’s (may peace be upon him   zaahir. That is hypocrisy and double standards. People are making fun because we Muslims are not following the Sunnah. If we did, then no one would ever criticize us, because the Prophet (may peace be upon him) had the best of manners, personality and character.

A must listen and thought-provoking lecture (given at LUMS : )!

For those who want to know about the Shaykh, click here:

[ Fri, 16 Apr, 2010 | Jumadi-ul-Awwal 01, 1431 ]

“You shall certainly be tried and tested in your possessions and in your personal selves and you shall certainly hear much that will grieve you, from those who received the Book before you and from those who worship many gods. But if you persevere patiently and guard against evil -then that will be a determining factor in all affairs.”

The Holy Quran. 3:186

‘Of Elevators and People.

Oh, where should I start from? So much to say. I wish I had some grand, exciting theory to talk about, which would stimulate brain cells, but no, here I am talking about (Say it!)… Yes, Elevators and PEEEPUL. Every elevator ride, just as every auto rickshaw ride is an experience, although thankfully the former (if lucky) only lasts a few minutes.

Here are some of the issues , you may face or things you may observe in the elevator:

1- Queuing Up

Every day at work, I need to go up six (6) floors in my office building to reach my workstation. The first step to get inside the elevator is to stand in the ever long queue, which may become so long that we’ll start queuing at the entrance of the building some day. I am one of those women who believe in equality in such a way that I feel men should not be discriminated against as well. So, i am not one of those ladies who disregard the men queuing up and confidently walk right at the start of the queue, waiting for the elevator to open and strut right in. Come on, that is unfair. I choose to queue up like the men and patiently wait for my turn.

Although a few days back, an old man told me very respectfully, “Agar aap aagay jaa ker khari naheen hoteen, tou ye aap ki hamaqat hei.” i.e. if you don’t walk right at the start of the queue, disregarding the queue like other women, then it is my folly. Thankfully, i am not the only female who chooses to stand in queue, so oh well, get used to women who don’t behave like they need help all the time (just sometimes. ;))

Anyways, the elevator experience gets more enriching. Wait until you get inside it.

2- The Stare Psychology

Once inside, some poor depraved soul, may start staring intently at my face. And, the only reason I notice him, is because females have a very strong six sense. They know when someone is looking at them, without the need of looking at the person. The staring man doesn’t blink and he doesn’t feel embarrassed when he realises that you know he is staring at you. He just stares, stares and stares, until either you get off the elevator or he does. His staring has absolutely nothing to do with whether you are pretty, unpretty, stylishly dressed, modestly dressed, in a burqa, enveiled , wearing a skirt or in pants. This is the way he gets kicks. This is your average depraved, sick male (not generalizing.). This is his vengeance towards the pretty much sad life he has. I am usually tempted to make it sadder, by poking his eyes with my fingers or spraying some pepper spray so deep in his eyes that he forever keeps his gaze low. I think his family’s prayers are the only thing saving him, because as far as I’m concerned, I’m this close to snapping.

| “Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and be modest. That is purer for them. Lo! Allah is Aware of what they do. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and be modest.” (An-Nur: 30-31)- The Holy Quran |

3-Body Odour, Burps and the like

Repulsive. Nothing more, nothing less. Please do not burp audibly in the elevator. It’s sick. I have stopped myself from wailing; “euuuuuuuuuuuuuu”, many times. Don’t eat so much that your tummy explodes and asks for mercy. I know it was lunch time and i know, you feel hungry, but why oh why, make puddles of cholesterol and chutneys of spices in your stomach and then torture, everybody in the elevator with sounds and smells, we can all do without.

|On the authority of Al-Miqdaam ibn Maadiy-Karib who said: I heard the Messenger of Allah saying: “No human ever filled a vessel worse than the stomach. Sufficient for any son of Adam are some morsels to keep his back straight. But if it must be, then one third for his food, one third for his drink and one third for his breath.”- Ahmad, At-Tirmidhi, An-Nasaa’I, Ibn Majah – Hadith sahih. |

Then there are those people who forget to take a shower. Not many. But some. Do not try camouflaging the odour with perfume, you are making it worse. You are activating my sinus. You are a walking virus. Just shower! I would like to give a disclaimer to the peons because maybe, just maybe, they have water issues at home, but the rest,  you have NO excuse.

|”….For God loves those who turn to Him constantly and He loves those who keep themselves pure and clean. (The Noble Quran, 2:222)”|

|Narrated Abu Musa: “Allah’s Apostle said, ‘The example of a good companion (who sits with you) in comparison with a bad one,is I like that of the musk seller and the blacksmith’s bellows (or furnace); from the first you would either buy musk or enjoy its good smell while the bellows would either burn your clothes or your house, or you get a bad nasty smell thereof.’ (Translation of Sahih Bukhari, Sales and Trade, Volume 3, Book 34, Number 314) |

4- The Elevator Singers

Oh yes, they exist. There is a certain lady, who looks educated, well to do and seems to belong to a respectable family, but she has this insane habit of humming when in the lift.  She will take her blackberry out, skim through the emails and hum while at it. And all this happens, when the elevator is overcrowded inside. I still have not been able to figure out, why she does that. Is this a mere habit? Hmm… Strange.

Then, there is that man, who starts humming a song, out of tune, when it’s just you, him and the elevator operator inside. Does he do that to get a woman’s attention? He needs some counseling. The last time it happened, i almost blurted out: “Can you sing louder so the dogs can hear you? They have been searching for their lost puppy since a long time. I think you’re the one. You howl just right.”

5- The Ringtones

I have heard qawallis, political parties’ jingles, the adhaan, the late Benazir’s voice, birds chirping, trance music, ghazals, sad songs and romantic tunes. You name it.

6- The Talkers

Some folks like to talk in the elevator. They will talk about the political issues, remark on the sounds coming from the elevator’s pulleys and gossip a bit. There are also those who like to throw a wisecrack, inevitably making most of us  smile or try to stifle our laughter. For folks, whose cell phones do work in elevators, they don’t wait until they get off, but chat until they reach the destination. So we all hear about their issues, their meetings, their babies, blah, blah and blah.

So you see, dear friends, an elevator ride is an experience. Still want to take the stairs? I’m with you. Who needs drama? ;)

Do you have an elevator experience you would like to share?

| Why Suicide is not an option for Muslims. |


Do not take life, which Allah made sacred, other than in the course of justice.

The Holy Quran – 17:33



Why should we be talking of suicide? Because, approximately one million suicides occur worldwide every year, which means that every forty (40) seconds somebody dies by suicide. Women are more likely than men to attempt suicide (not surprising), while men are much more likely to succeed (not surprising once more). What’s worrisome however, is that for one successful suicide, there are twenty (20) failed suicide attempts. So people are actually contemplating suicide at a very high rate.

News of young people committing suicide really gets to me. Since a few months, there has been a succession of celebrity suicide reporting in the media.  God knows how many everyday people like you and me may be pulling the trigger, hanging down a rope or gulping down sleeping pills, amongst other horrific ways to kill yourself.

It makes me angry. It makes me want to take those bodies out of the graves and ask them, why living suddenly was not an option? Why was it so easy for you to give up, especially when you had no clue about tomorrow? Why did you not think about the people who cared for you? Why did you assume that they would just move on? Why didn’t you know beforehand that in those last moments of life, the realization just may hit you- the realization that you really did not want to die.

Then there are deaths which have been caused owing to drug overdose. The depression crashes down on the body and mind after the fake euphoria. It makes me want to drag drug dealers and manufacturers out of their hiding holes and make them accountable for these untimely deaths.

There are suicides caused by clinical depression and mental (may be psychiatric is a better word?) diseases as well. In such cases, you really cannot blame anyone, except when you uncover the cause behind the depression.

Suicides by rape victims and suicides by women to protect their ‘izzat’ ( honour) is another extremely sad tangent to this web as well.

For Muslims though, religiously, suicide is not even an option and unfortunately most young people do not even know about it. Parents do not educate their children about the  very basics of our religion, apart from the five pillars of Islam i.e. Tauheed (Belief in the oneness of Allah s.w.t),  Salah (prayers), Saum (Fasting), Hajj (Pilgrimage) and Zakat (Charity). Children should know that suicide is haraam (forbidden).

Allah s.w.t.  says in verse twenty nine (29), Surah Nisa of the Holy Quran:  “And do not kill yourselves. Surely, Allah is Most Merciful to you”.

In verse 195 of Surah Al-Baqarah of the Holy Quran, Allah s.w.t tells us specifically:  “And do not throw yourselves in destruction”.

It is fairly obvious by these two verses that (a) we are not to commit suicide and we are to believe in Allah’s supreme mercy and (b) we should not consciously and intentionally harm ourselves, even to the extent of inflicting injury on ourselves,  so suicide is a definite no, no.

An Ahadith ( reported sayings and actions of the Holy Prophet (may peace be upon him) ) also showcase the stern stance that he took about suicide. It has been narrated by Abu Hurairah (RA) that the Holy Prophet ( may peace be upon him ) said, “He who commits suicide by throttling shall keep on throttling himself in the Hell-fire (forever), and he who commits suicide by stabbing himself, he shall keep stabbing himself in the Hell-fire (forever).”

It has also been reported (sorry can’t find the exact reference, so please confirm veracity) that  a man committed suicide while the Holy Prophet (may peace be upon him) was alive, and the holy Prophet (may peace be upon him) was so upset that he didn’t perform the janazah prayer ( prayer performed by Muslims upon death of a Muslim )  for the deceased, but he asked his companions to do it and pray for the deceased’s forgiveness.

So clearly, the ramifications of suicide are severe and follow you to the hereafter. *shudder*

The premise behind suicide being a sin in Islam is that life is sacred and it has been gifted to us by Allah s.w.t. No one but HE has the power and authority to determine when, where and how, the soul will be taken from the body. We are not to end our lives ourselves. When we are taking our own life away, we are disobeying Allah and being ungrateful to the gift of life that He has bestowed on us. Our life is not our personal property. It has been given to us as a trust from Allah s.w.t, and as trustees, we have to take great care of it.

Yes! Life is tough and it’s not always brilliant. We all face obstacles, turns, twists, depression, sadness and despair, but Islam asks us to fight against these negative emotions. We are asked to never despair, which is infact equated as if a sin, and to trust that Allah s.w.t will never give us a load that we cannot bear.

Ayah (verse) sixty two (62) of Surah Al-Muminun of the Holy Quran states: “We do not impose on any self any more than it can bear. With Us is a Book that speaks the truth. They will not be wronged.”

Similarly, Ayah (verse) two hundred and eight six (286) of Surah Baqarah in the Holy Quran reads: “Allah does not impose on any self any more than it can bear. For it is what it has earned; against it, what it has brought upon itself.”

The two Ayahs (verses) clearly mean that despite the torment and the immense sea of depression that we find ourselves sinking in and despite the feeling that we cannot take the pain, we have to believe that we have the strength to fight against the torment and swim back to the shore. We have to believe that we have the hidden strength to rise above the difficulty because Allah s.w.t has already said that we only get the share of troubles that we can bear. Then why, give up fighting and why treat any event as the end of the world? It clearly isn’t. It’s just a phase which will pass because we have the strength to bear and cross over it.

The best way to fight these negative emotions is to seek Allah s.w.t and ask for HIS help and guidance, because HE is the only savior. Never turn to any human for help because even humans can or cannot do anything, which the Creator enables him/her to do. Believe in: HasbunAllah wa Ni’mal Wakil:  Allah Alone is Sufficient for us, and He is the Best Disposer of affairs for us.

No one but Him can make things better and He will make things better. Never lose faith in his miracles.

Islam is about optimism and positive energy. Once you leave your affairs in Allah s.w.t and firmly start believing in the power of sincere dua (prayer) and live with the genuine conviction and faith that Insha’Allah, Allah will make everything alright, it is easier to go through the pain and fight  depression.

So if you find a Muslim  or even a non Muslim undergoing depression and who is possibly suicidal,  help them to fight the depression, make them consult a psychiatrist if you have to, support and advise them, try your best to uplift their spirits, be there for them, make them laugh and make them somehow understand that suicide is not the solution to problems. That a rough patch is short lived and someday Insha’Allah, happiness will embrace them. That there are people who genuinely care for them and that they would be devastated if the person commits suicide.

Keep the FAITH and Remember that Suicide is a definite No, No. :)


“Few things in the world are more powerful than a positive push. A smile. A word of optimism and hope. And you can do it when things are tough.” (Richard Devos)


Purpose of our Existence

guidance of the Quran

Asalam o Alaikum va Rehmatullahe va Barakatuhu,

There was a little impromptu dars ( religious sermon) at my place today which turned out to be very inspirational. The esteemed muqarar asked us to ponder over the requirements of our existence. She said that there are some people who proclaim that if a woman prays and takes care of her husband and her children, then she can easily go to heaven. She asked us if that appears logical?

No. A human has the power to think and therefore his purpose is to live life according to the commandments of Allah subhana wa ta Allah. For eg. a washing machine has the purpose of washing clothes. You cannot wash carpets in it. Isi tarha when you deviate from the purpose of your life, your life has no stability.

Such a life is also useless for the hereafter. For eg. if there is a table, and two of its legs and some glass breaks and you take it to the carpenter for fixing, but the carpenter instead is of the opinion that fixing it will cost you as much as buying the same table again. Logically, you would decide to chuck the table because its useless for you now and would rather invest in a new one. Similarly, if you spend your life disobeying Allah and deviating from sirat ul mustaqeem, then your life spent in this temporary world is utterly useless and without direction.

So then how do we spend our time here, when in Surah Muminoon , it has been specified that we will be asked , how did we spend our life, especially our youth? will we then say we didn’t realise what was happening, we were busy, we were looking after the kids and the like? will excuses work? they will not. Then how should we live our lives? The answer is simple- by moulding our lives according to the Quran and Sunnah.

She also gave the example of a wedding, where everybody is dressed up and wanting to look their best.In such an event, usually when people spot the movie man, they sit upright, they ask others:i hope the kohl in my eye is not smeared.. Do i need to touch up on my lipstick? you self consciously move your hands through your hair and the like. Why do people do that? they do so because they know that there image would be captured on film. Drawing an analogy, she brought attention to the fact that our entire life is being recorded as well. She mentioned some latest scientific discovery, that the cells on our arms are always actually seeping in whatever we say or do or experience. so inevitably, our body will speak for itself as to what, when, where and how we did something good or bad. Then why are we not conscious about this life recording, especially when we know that it is going to be presented to the supreme Creator, Allah Subhana wa ta Allah?

She very rightly pointed out that if we can spend 22 years of our lives studying for a master degree and read 16 books for double math exams , then why can we not focus and also read and understand just one book- the HOLY QURAN.

We will also be asked as to how did we impart our knowledge? Does the knowledge being referred to here is the dunyawi taleem (wordly education.)? No. It refers to learnings from the Quran and Sunnah and whether we imparted its knowledge to others.

She mentioned an Ahadith (and i forgot the reference) that the Holy Prophet (may peace be upon him) told a sahaba that of you go to the Masjid and learn and then teach even if only two Ayahs of the Quran, then it is better and more afzal than a hundred nafli ibadaat. she also paid emphasis on the importance of ijtimayi ibadat in Islam as opposed to infradi ibadat.

She also pointed out that usually people give very little in the way of Allah. If somebody for eg. has PKR 105, and someone asks for sadqa, then most people (not all) would give the 5 rs. for sadqa and keep the 100 rs. for themselves. The point she was trying to make was that when rizq comes from Allah, then He will ask you how much was spent in HIS way. Even with respect to the food you eat, you will be asked, where did you use the energy you derived from it? Did you use it to do things specified to be unIslamic, wrong and/or sinful and whether those energies were spent for the good?

She said that alongwith giving money for the needy, money should also be spent to impart knowledge for eg. giving money for the construction of a mosque or getting islamic books published and distributing them because these things will inevitably become your sadqa e jariya. :)

She advocated that life in this world should be spent as if you were a traveler with zero expectations from people. you should only have expectations from Allah. Medan e Hashr meine wo saray log whom you cry and die for today, will disown you and will only care for themselves. We have been told this by Allah so this is not wrong or untrue, then why link expectations with people at all? The best thing is Allah tawakkal. Follow what is stated in the Quran, be loving, take care of needy, orphans and relatives, but only look up to Allah subhana wa ta Allah.

She gave an example that in a world where upon demise of a relative, some people suddenly start using the word, “dead body’ as opposed to what the relatons were before, is it wise to bank any expectations at all?

But love is something which Allah has put in our hearts as well, and that can never be shunned, but love should not be used as an excuse for wrongful actions as well.

The moral of the entire dars was: whatever you do in life, from the minutest of things always do it for Allah’s raza and always question whether He will be happy with your actions. Even a shaheed will be asked, did you die for me, or because you wanted to be called shaheed in this world? A qari will be asked were your recitations for me, or were they because you were proud of your self? If on the bridge of suraq, even the messengers will be asking for Allah’s help, then we really need to set some priorities in our lives and question as to where we are going.

I must however clarify that this is just my understanding, which is prone to be full of mistakes and misunderstanding. Therefore, if any of you, notices something wrong or incorrect, please free to point that out.

May Allah forgive me for any inadvertent mistakes. ameen. summa ameen.

Requesting Prayers,