How Bad Can it Get?

You know things are bad when the most corrupt man in the country becomes the President;
When the Prime Minister is convicted and still continues to hold office;
When the Attorney General behaves like a nutcase;
When the media sells its so called impartiality to money;
When the judiciary has to justify its honourability;
When the army and agencies role is questionable;
When there is near anarchy in provinces;
When the rich get richer,
the poor poorer and the middle class is choked with the burden;
When giving and taking bribe is an accepted norm;
When ghundagardi becomes a sign of influence;
When security is just a dream;
When people use the Quran to wave it at people rather than following it.
Things then are really bad and this seems to be the beginning. Allah help us.


Do you waste Food?


“Eat and drink but waste not by extravagance, certainly He (Allâh) likes not Al-Musrifûn (those who waste by extravagance.”

Al-A’raf 7:31 of the Holy Quran

If there is one thing that really upsets me is when I see people wasting food. My mom taught me to finish whatever I put on my plate and to date, I try my best to do so unless I feel that one more spoon and I would just die or get sick. Even then, I ensure that the remaining food is not thrown but parceled and either consumed later or given to a stray cat to feast on.


As Muslims, it is simply unbecoming of us to waste food. However even as good humans, we should be cognizant of the fact that in other parts of the world, people are dying because of starvation owing to famine, and here we are simply putting too much on our plate and then later leaving it.

If you are skeptical about the spices used in the food or whether the meat is rare, medium or well done, simply do not put a whole chunk on your plate. Put very little so you can taste and then decide whether you want to eat it or not. That is basic common sense.

Anas said: “The prophet ordered us not to leave anything in the plate and he said: “You do not know in which portion of your food Allah has put the Barakah (Blessing)”. Muslim

And what of people who go to buffets, weddings and all you can eat snack/salad items and fill their plates with layers and layers of food and salad to make a tiny mountain, only to leave the remnants of that mountain behind. Why such greed? Why can’t we just take a small/medium helping and then if we need more, get up and get some more of the food item?


Be thankful for the food that you get on your plate and do not waste It because there are almost 925 Million people in the world starving because of hunger? Would you waste food if you were one of these people? The ones who go through the garbage to get a morsel of food?


I am especially irked by the food items produced to get a mention in the Guinness World Book of Records. “World’s Biggest Pizza”, “World’s Biggest Cake” .Shame on you!


Instead of wasting so many ingredients, you could be World’s Biggest Sane Person, if you instead donated the amount that it cost to makethis World Biggest Nothing, to a reputable charity providing food to the hungry. You wasted so much food for a stupid record. You should be ashamed of yourself.

Let us please try our best from this day:

(i) To only put the quantity of food that you can eat on your plate

(ii) To dispose off leftovers – not in the garbage can-  but in such a way that they can either be (a) reused or (b) given to a stray cat/dog who will consume these leftovers

(iii) To take care of the hungry in what little capacity you can.

Have a good day everybody.

Cheers. :)

Fast Track


Every one who knows me knows that I signed my marriage contract in a jhat pat fashion. The decision to go through this by both families was made three days before the actual ceremony. And two of those days were working days. In three days, we scrambled to get a caterer who would put a decent tent in my backyard, as well as serve good food. In three days, I had to pick a dress and get it stitched. In three days, we had to suddenly inform close family members. There was a lot of stress- a lot of pressure- a lot of everything. But it got done. There were perhaps fifty or less than fifty people who attended the ceremony and as far as I recall, the whole thing started at around Maghrib and ended well before eleven p.m.


Fact of the matter is that in three days with zero planning at our backs, both me and my husband did not get the opportunity to call as many people as we would have liked to. Personally, I always wanted a very low key, private affair but there were some friends whose presence would have been great. However, after all was said and done, in retrospect, I don’t regret anything. I had my ammi, my aboo, my aapi, my brothers, my aunty  and close family members and at the end of the day , they were all the people I truly needed.


Yes, some friends do moan that I should have atleast informed them- but frankly what they do not understand is that in three days, two of which I spent at my office, I had perhaps gazillion of other things on my to do list. Leave alone, the to do list , my mental state was not such that I actually wanted to sit down call each friend, shock them , and chit chat more on that front. I just did not have the brain, or the time. I think even on the day of the ceremony, both me and hubby were dazed after all the crazy shopping, organizing, arranging and hearing our relatives talk. When it was all over, we were just glad that it happened and we could relax, eat, smile and chill.


There were friends who immediately understood when a day after the ceremony, the call was made to give the good news. But then there were some who did not understand. Some made me feel bad, upset and slightly marred my happiness. I was already in a daze and nervous as hell, not to mention having several panic attacks with the realization that, OMG! I am a WIFE now and these people were not exactly helping. So yeah I decided to put my foot down, and exclaim to myself, “ NO WAY, THIS IS MY MOMENT AND I WILL NOT LET PEOPLE’S TANTRUMS RUIN THIS FOR ME. What matters to me is this new relationship, this new bond and this new phase of my life and I will live it to my fullest. If there are some folks who cannot understand, it is their mind set and not mine. :-) “


And for those who immediately understood, my respect for them has increased two fold. :)


My husband still faces gripes from some friends. It amazes me. I think given the fact that he had to single handedly arrange everything in three days, from taking me shopping, taking his family shopping, arranging things, calling relatives and buying his own sherwani :p, I think people should really give him a break. He deserves it.


Last night, as we sat gorging 14th Street Pizza , Peporoni and Chicken Fajita to be exact and were watching the most nonsensical of movies that we eventually switched off for good, this realization was re-inforced.


We have each other and frankly the rest of the world, the hoo haas, the haw hayays and the nay sayers do not matter. I look forward to the future and at this point, if I had to do it again, I would do it the same way.


*MashaAllah* * MashaAllah* *MashaAllah*